Hey everyone, I hope you’re all doing well and welcome to my blog. So today, it is my birthday, I have turned 19 and left my year of being 18, it has been so full of emotions, both happy and sad. In celebration of my birthday, I thought I would tell you 18 things I’ve learnt from the past 18 years of my life, a lot of life lessons have been learnt and it has been one heck of a journey. If your interested, there will hopefully be a birthday haul up soon in the upcoming week and I’m so excited. I hope you enjoy this post and find it somewhat interesting or inspiring, if you do like this, give it a like and a comment and if your interested in seeing more blog posts from me, give my blog a follow.
It is okay to have bad days, weeks or months
There have definitely been rough times in my life and I have always beaten myself up for wallowing on things until I came to the realisation that it is okay to have bad days and to always give yourself time to heal. I have suffered from Depression for a couple years now, I am finally starting to feel better and I am only dealing with Anxiety, I’m glad I’ve finally learnt to give myself time and not to rush myself, there will always be bad things that happen and no matter if it takes days, weeks or months, everything will be okay in the end.
Success won’t come to you, you have to work hard to get it
When I was in high school, I had always dreamed of achieving certain things but I would always expect them to come to me until I realised I had to work hard for what I wanted. For a few years now, I’ve wanted to create my own blog but I didn’t want to start it if I didn’t have the determination and motivation to work hard for it. Going to university has also been a massive achievement for me and I wouldn’t of been able to do it if I didn’t have the motivation to strive harder.
It’s okay to have a small circle
I remember since I was young I used to feel proud of myself with the amount of friends I have but then I came to the realisation that I would rather have a small circle of friends compared to having loads of friends that you aren’t that close too, its all fun and games hanging around with loads of people but it isn’t so good when you have a problem but just want to talk to a close friend.
A whole world is out there
When I was little, I’ve always wanted to travel but I had no idea why, now, I want to travel because I want to see so many new things and I want to learn about different cultures. A whole world is out there to see and its amazing. I will have a passport by the time its my birthday so I will finally be able to see the rest of the world and I hope I’ll be able to find my true happiness somewhere.
Education is so important
In high school I used to hate going to school and learning about different things but now, I get so excited about learning about new things and that’s one of the main reasons I went to university, I like having the opportunity to learn about new things that’s also probably why I want to travel so much, I like learning about different cultures and places.
Comparing yourself to others isn’t going to make you happy
I am guilty of always comparing myself to other people and if I tell you the truth, it has never turned out to make me happy. I know its easier said than done but just try not to compare yourself to others. I have the tendency of comparing my weight to other women who are slimmer than me or are better at doing makeup than me and it just made me feel even worse about myself. I’ve learnt to try and love myself more and stop trying to change myself for others.
Taking photo’s don’t always make the memory more memorable
I am guilty of always wanting to take photos of everything and especially being a blogger, it’s quite hard to stop. There have been times where I’ve been with people and there has been a beautiful view and I have got my phone straight out to take a photo but sometimes, you just need to learn to take in the moment and that will make a bigger memory compared to being on your phone.
You don’t always have to be in a relationship to be happy
When I was younger I always used to think that being in a relationship would make me so much happier but in reality it really doesn’t. I’ve been in so many relationships that haven’t made me happy and I have felt so much happier when being single compared to being in that relationship. Some people have told me that they only feel happy when their in a relationship but if I was to give any advice, I would stay single and find yourself and be happier.
Accepting yourself is more important than anyone else
Accepting yourself for who you are is the most important thing to do compared to getting accepted by anyone else. I used to go out looking for compliments and waiting for people to accept you when in reality you only need yourself to accept yourself, it will make you so much happier in the long run.
Its okay to walk away from toxic friendships and relationships
If I’m totally honest, I have had so many toxic friendships and relationships that I’ve lost count off. Staying in a toxic friendship/relationship is probably easier to stay in compared to walking away because you don’t know what it will cause. It is definitely okay to walk away from them because I promise you, it will be way better and will make you so much happier.
Not everyone will stay in your life and never beg for them to stay
I’ve learnt through many experiences that some people just don’t stay in your life, their could be many reasons why but there is no making them stay. You should never blame yourself for someone walking out on your life you should just use it as a life lesson. One thing I’ve learnt not to do is beg for them to stay, there is no use begging for someone to stay and it will make you so much worse because you will feel that you wasn’t enough so if someone wants to leave, just let them.
Money is not everything
I’m sure everyone has had their moments where they thought money was everything and that it is all you strive for. I came from a not so privilege family and going to university, I had so much more money than I was used to but it didn’t make me any happier, yes it can be something that motivates you into trying harder but don’t see it as something to bring happiness because there is so much more that can make you happy.
Don’t obsess over anything
This may be something that you can relate to, sometimes you work yourself up so much over something that in the end doesn’t matter. I am guilty of obsessing over certain things and that’s not going to solve anything so just let it flow and what happens, happens.
Keep a good skincare routine
Until around 6 months ago, I never really had a well planned skincare routine which sounds really bad but true. Having a good skincare routine is amazing because it can make you feel so much more confident if your skin is clear and it is so important to look after your skin.
Always make time for yourself
Making time for yourself is so important, this is because you need time away from everything to think through things and to heal. Taking time to pamper yourself can help you to feel so much more calmer and it can teach you to love yourself gradually.
Your parents are always your best friends no matter how old you get
Your parents are the most important people you will ever know and they will always be there no matter how old you get. I’m so much more closer to my Mum than my Dad but I always know that there’s no one who will care about you more than your parents and if you need someone, you can always run back to them.
Dress to impress for yourself
When it comes to clothing and makeup, it is common that you stick to a certain type of clothing or a certain makeup look but why not try something different, wear that dress that you wouldn’t normally feel confident in and wear that lip colour you don’t feel confident wearing, it doesn’t matter what others think, all that matters is what you think of yourself and always dress for YOURSELF, never dress for anyone else.
Chase your dreams
If you don’t ask for it, you don’t get so why don’t you ask for that job opportunity and why don’t you book that flight. It is always important to reflect on your dreams and to achieve them because it is so important to have dreams because it gives you motivation to strive.
That’s the end to my 18 things I’ve learnt before turning 19, let me know in the comments how old you are and what your biggest life lesson has been. I would love each and everyone one of you to interact with me in the comments, ill comment back as soon as I can (I promise!!) Please comment any blog posts you would be interested in seeing and I will make sure to post them (I would really appropriate your feedback) If you have any questions or suggestions or would simply like to get in touch, my email is firstname.lastname@example.org and I aim to email back within 24 hours!! Thank you for reading my first blog post I hope it gave you an insight into who I am and I will be back on Friday mid day for another post…
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